Lonely

Do you feel lonely?

Sometimes in our lives, there are circumstances or events that can leave us feeling lonely.  Being lonely is different to being alone.  Some people are surrounded by family, friends, colleagues and yet they feel very lonely.  Whilst others may have limited contact with others and do not experience feelings of loneliness.

Some of the signs that you or someone you know feels alone may be an inability to connect with others and in particular in a deeper connection.  You may feel overwhelmed with feelings of being isolated regardless of who is around you.  Perhaps you doubt your own self-worth,  or your ability to give and receive love or connection with others.  

What can you do when you or someone you know feels lonely?

Firstly acknowledge the feelings or circumstances in which you ‘feel lonely’.  Then consider some options that may work for you such as try some small talk the next time you leave your home?  Someone at the supermarket perhaps?  Someone in the lunch room at work?

Have you considered seeking out some like minded people?  Perhaps you like art, music or sport?  Is there a group or club near you that you could consider participating in to slowly build some social connection and a sense of belonging? 

Some people find talking with their Doctor a helpful first step.  You may discuss a referral to talk with a counsellor or therapist to help them identify the cause of their loneliness and what you can do to address it.

Whatever option you decide to take, acknowledging that loneliness is a very valid emotion and there is support available to help you feel less alone regardless of the situation you may find yourself in.

Do you feel alone?

There are times when we can feel totally alone, disconnected, devalued, misunderstood, abandoned, forgotten or overlooked.  These feelings can be overwhelming in themselves which can make you feel even more alone and disconnected.  Acknowledging how you feel is important for your immediate needs and to help you what options are available to you to consider. 

Being alone is not about how many people you have around you.  It can feel like there is something wrong with you and that is why you are alone.

There is help and support available for when we feel alone.  Some people find talking with their Doctor a helpful first step.  You may discuss a referral to talk with a counsellor or therapist to help them identify the cause of their loneliness and what you can do to address it.

Whatever option you decide to take, acknowledging that loneliness is a very valid emotion and there is support available to help you feel less alone regardless of the situation you may find yourself in.